I had lunch with a friend today. One of our conversations struck a chord. And I think we both agreed.
The topic: “Women mature earlier than men.” We agreed to disagree with the idea that it takes men longer to “grow up” than it does women. (Except physically).
Where does the stereotype even come from? Psychologists? Culture? Religion?
I think it’s a concept that has plagued our minds, limiting our potential to behave as naturally as possible. In nature, some male behavior will differ from those of a female. But the continuous reminder that it will take a man some years before reaching the maturity level of a woman is in itself a setback. How conditioned have we become?
Women want to automatically date men who are years their senior because they have a preconceived notion about men their own age. (I have been guilty of this). And in turn, men subconsciously behave the way they are ultimately expected to behave as it has become socially acceptable. (I have encountered such individuals). This stereotype has become an excuse for immaturity. It has created mental limitations, hindering us from realizing that as individuals, we grow/mature independently.
Notwithstanding the constant pollution from pop culture, news media and ignorance that surrounds us, we need to make an effort to filter that information. Let us not be judgmental toward others, and stop making excuses for our behavior.
The day we cease in putting titles to whom, what and why we are, will be the day we’ll all be open to accepting one anothers’ flaws whilst embracing our qualities.